When our kitten died suddenly in a freak accident last week, I thought I did all the right things. I grieved. I mourned. I encouraged my kids to grieve and mourn. We buried him. And still, I found myself filled with a tension I simply could not release. It took me days of active soul…
Category: Life
Terrorism, Censorship, and Cancel Culture: The Revolution Has Begun
I remember after the terrorism after the twin towers came down, Bill Maher, political talk show comedian, who at the time had a show called Politically Incorrect on ABC, said that the attackers were not cowards. “We have been the cowards, lobbing cruise missiles from 2,000 miles away. That’s cowardly. Staying in the airplane when…
Writing the Mother Wound: The Agony and Angst of Healing
My mother wound bust all of its stitches and demanded to be healed, properly this time around. “I have to go back and be happy! I have to paint toes and smile at my children and sit down to dinner. You get to go hide up in your room!!!” I screamed at my mother in…
Grief Is So Heavy: The Death of The Best Woman I Know
I got the call yesterday while I was chit chatting with other moms around a fire pit, our children running and playing around trees, roasting marshmallows, and sliding down creek beds. I missed the call. I missed the text. And then I saw it, on the front of my phone, “Call me when you get…
The Stories We Tell: for Good and Bad
For the last year or so I’ve been lightly studying Buddhism, mostly through author Pema Chodron. I fell in love with the intersecting ideas of both diving deep and remaining detached. It is such an interesting way to live, if one can master it, and it really all comes down to the stories we tell….
Unconditional Love: Love Me Anyway
“All I want is for those who love me to love me no matter what. And if you can’t love me no matter what, love me from further away. And if you can’t love me at all, stay away altogether.” ~Shanna, Love Me or Leave Me I’ve been thinking about our failures in love a…
The Art of Allowing Joy, Even in Crisis
Why aren’t we all allowing ourselves to live in our natural state of joy? Why don’t we realize that it is our own resistance that makes us so unhappy in the long term? It is totally possible to not resist unhappiness and get right back to happy relatively quickly, almost every time. Shit Happens: Joy…
Change Is Here: More than a Pandemic
What is happening around the world is so much more than a pandemic. And on many levels, I have to say, I am glad for it. We are entering a true leveling up of humanity, and it is amazing to watch it finally unfold. I have been feeling the tremors of this eruption for more…
No Repair: When Broken Is Just Broken
Sometimes, broken is just broken. There was no repair for my parents’ marriage. My mom tried everything. I was 13 the first time I begged my mother to leave my stepdad. My baby brother had just been born, my sisters were 10 and 3, and we were all terrorized. “Please, Mom. Please. Just leave him….
A Covid Counterpoint: Get Outside and Socialize
Words matter. Now more than ever, in a time of keyboard warriors and social justice shouters, words matter. And the primary words of this global pandemic come, like many major events, in a set of three. Three phrases: stay home, stay inside, and social distancing. The problem with these three phrases is that they are…