“All I want is for those who love me to love me no matter what. And if you can’t love me no matter what, love me from further away. And if you can’t love me at all, stay away altogether.” ~Shanna, Love Me or Leave Me I’ve been thinking about our failures in love a…
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Oops: The Power and the Problem with Positivity
Who would have ever thought there would be a problem with positivity? Not me. I have always been a pretty positive person. I think a natural byproduct of sustained childhood trauma is that you either come out internalizing all the trauma and ending up depressed or you say “fuck that shit” and you decide you…
I’m Having a Miscarriage. I Think?
I’m pregnant. And I’m having a miscarriage. I think. What Do You Mean “I Think?” A little over two weeks ago I looked at my calendar and thought, “whoa! It’s been a really long time since I’ve had a period.” Long cycles are normal for me, so I take them with a grain of salt….
No More Shame: Let’s Put an End to Internet Police
Shame. “No more namaste.” “You are glorifying your use of alcohol.” “Stop calling people your ‘tribe.’” “I can’t believe you let your kid walk on the edge of the bathtub with socks on.” Shame shame. It has always driven me crazy, really. People telling other people how to live their lives over the internet. It’s…
Reflections on Writing: Beautifully Broken
I’ve been thinking about this post, “Beautifully Broken,” that I wrote originally four years ago, and how this fits into some writing goals I’ve got coming up. I finally went in to my old blogspot account and dug it up. This week’s post is my reflection on writing. For a long time writer, it can…
Having It All: Stop Compromising Your Dreams
There I was, on deadline, Sunday afternoon, with content to send to a client by 6 o’clock. “Hi! I’m behind schedule right now. I’ll have this to you by 7.” I sent my client. “No problem. I’ll be ready at 7.” He responded. Shit shit shit. I’m starting to stress. I’m worried. What if this…
Where the Light Shines In: I’m Not Afraid to Break
“Happiness is a choice.” I say to myself and anyone else who will listen. “Believe you can have it, and you can have it.” I repeat on a regular basis. “The most important relationship you can have is with yourself.” I remind myself and the women in my women’s circle. “Don’t be afraid to break….
Change the World: Let Kids Be Little. Let Them Be Wild
As summer is fast approaching, I am working with students day and night who are stressed out about finals, stressed out about grades, stressed out about performance, competition, comparison, and acceptance. What they should be stressed out about is this: nothing. Nothing is worth taking away kids’ precious sleep, their sanity, their hopes, their lighthearted…
Happiness Is All About Perspective: Shift Happens
I do not, nor have I ever, buried my anger. I wear my heart on my sleeve and my fire in my eyes. My husband will say to me, “I thought you would be upset about that.” I look him in the eye. “Honey.” I say. “If I was upset, you would know it.” Twelve…
Having a Bad Day: It’s Not Them. It’s You.
It can happen to the happiest among us. And it can happen for any number of reasons. You didn’t get enough sleep. You haven’t gotten enough sleep in a week, a month, a year! Your kid is sick. You started a new job and you’re feeling overwhelmed. You’re PMSing. Anything can turn a potentially good…