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Tag: motherhood
Oops: The Power and the Problem with Positivity
Who would have ever thought there would be a problem with positivity? Not me. I have always been a pretty positive person. I think a natural byproduct of sustained childhood trauma is that you either come out internalizing all the trauma and ending up depressed or you say “fuck that shit” and you decide you…
How Accepting Help Is an Expression of Love
“I can’t bring the kids to the library to meet you guys today. My battery died. I need a new one.” I messaged my friend early the other morning. “Oh no!” She responded. Then she followed up with a lovely offer to come pick us up and throw my kids’ carseats in her giant minivan…
Mindfulness: My Emotions on Food and Fitness
Mindfulness is an entirely new concept for me. Take food and fitness for just one example. Or two. For more than 20 years now, I throw myself into fitness when I’m well and fall into fatness when I’m unwell. I have lived on an emotional roller coaster of food and fitness. So I use food…
Chasing Success: Why It Has to Begin with Self Love
He sat there staring at the page, my last student of the day. He was already twenty minutes late. I was just about to leave work, happy to go home and finish up essays I have to write for clients. This is my last month at my tutoring center where I help high school kids…
Contrast in Life: We Choose How We Face It
I am learning more and more that contrast is essential to the human experience, and that we get to decide how traumatized we allow ourselves to be by the contrasts we face every day. My miscarriage has mostly passed. I am dealing with the remnants of the loss and the shifting reality, but the worst…
I’m Having a Miscarriage. I Think?
I’m pregnant. And I’m having a miscarriage. I think. What Do You Mean “I Think?” A little over two weeks ago I looked at my calendar and thought, “whoa! It’s been a really long time since I’ve had a period.” Long cycles are normal for me, so I take them with a grain of salt….
Fitting In: It’s High Time You Stop Trying
“Is that good?” My daughter asks me for the fifth time in five minutes. “Celaya. Seriously. Stop asking me that. You don’t need my approval. If you like it, if you think it’s good, that’s all that matters.” Five minutes later… “Is that good?” Picture me smacking my forehead with my palm. My daughter is…
Choose Joy: On Death and Life and My Women’s Circle
My mother’s sister died a few days ago. We knew it was coming. This time last year she was given just months to live. She stuck it out, smiling as always, for a whole year, only getting really bedridden and sick in the very end, and finally succumbing this last Monday. As it was unfolding…
Wild Recognize Wild: Coming to Terms With My Darkness
Growth is a strange beast, isn’t it? You think you’re all love and light, and then you wanna cut someone. You think you’re free of the anger and melodrama from your past and then this dark demon shakes up your insides. On my journey into clarity, balance, and alignment with the source of my energy,…